The word “constant” has been creeping up in my vocabulary a lot lately.
Talking to mothers about motherhood….it’s constant.
Talking to wives about marriage……it’s constant.
Talking to people about work…….it’s constant.
Talking to people about relationships…….it’s constant.
Talking to people about bill paying…..it’s constant.
Talking to people about staying organized…….it’s constant.
Talking to people about cleaning……it’s constant.
So, what does this mean? Life is constant. There is stuff in your life that constantly needs attention.
So, what do you do?
Take breaks when you can.
Appreciate the small breaks you get.
Realize this is what you signed on for when you became a wife, a mother, a friend, a member of a group, a homeowner, an employee.
Life ends up not really being about you but you in the context of life with all of the other people in it. It’s just how life is so you can fight it, fuss about it, talk about how bad it is, whine about it, cry about it or nag about it. But a better alternative might be to embrace it, change what you can about it and find things to be thankful in it. Your approach and your attitude makes all the difference in the world in having a miserable life or a wonderful life……either way, it’s going to be constant.
“What we hunger for perhaps more than anything else is to be known in our full humanness, and yet that is often just what we also fear more than anything else. It is important to tell at least from time to time the secret of who we truly and fully are . . . because otherwise we run the risk of losing track of who we truly and fully are and little by little come to accept instead the highly edited version which we put forth in hope that the world will find it more acceptable than the real thing. It is important to tell our secrets too because it makes it easier . . . for other people to tell us a secret or two of their own . . . ”
I love this quote from Frederick Buechner. I think it is so true that we want to be fully understood but…….not really. We want to be loved for who we are but sometimes we are working so hard at being lovable that we lose ourselves.
Seeing ourselves for who we truly are, warts and all, is not an easy thing to do. It can be a painful process because we are exposing ourselves and others to our reality…..not the masks that we so often put on to make ourselves look better and feel better about who we are.
Keeping it real, being honest, and digging deep; all are part of the process of being known in our full humanness.
How do you feel about people knowing the real you?