It was November 29th and I was walking around my neighborhood. As I was walking, I saw several houses completely decorated for Christmas and several neighbors out decorating. I started hearing this little voice in my head start to clamor for my attention:
The word “constant” has been creeping up in my vocabulary a lot lately.
Talking to mothers about motherhood….it’s constant.
Talking to wives about marriage……it’s constant.
Talking to people about work…….it’s constant.
Talking to people about relationships…….it’s constant.
Talking to people about bill paying…..it’s constant.
Talking to people about staying organized…….it’s constant.
Talking to people about cleaning……it’s constant.
So, what does this mean? Life is constant. There is stuff in your life that constantly needs attention.
So, what do you do?
Take breaks when you can.
Appreciate the small breaks you get.
Realize this is what you signed on for when you became a wife, a mother, a friend, a member of a group, a homeowner, an employee.
Life ends up not really being about you but you in the context of life with all of the other people in it. It’s just how life is so you can fight it, fuss about it, talk about how bad it is, whine about it, cry about it or nag about it. But a better alternative might be to embrace it, change what you can about it and find things to be thankful in it. Your approach and your attitude makes all the difference in the world in having a miserable life or a wonderful life……either way, it’s going to be constant.
I was in a meeting about Social Media the other day and the speaker was talking about having a baseline, starting that day, I needed to write down and know how many Twitter followers do I have, how many people like my Facebook pages and how many Blog followers do I have. Knowing these numbers today and comparing them to the same time next year allows me to know how much my business and social media presence has grown. When I was 40, I had to have a mammogram so the radiologist would be able to see if there were changes from one year to the next. When you are in 3rd grade, you take a test at the beginning of the year and the same test at the end of the year to see what you have learned. How do you know if you’ve achieved anything if you don’t have a baseline?
I am constantly reminding my organizing and life coach clients to remember where they came from instead of always looking at how much work, organizing, and changing they need to do.
Many of them have forgotten the reality of their life circumstances or the reality of what their life used to look like. When you forget, you end of up not giving yourself any credit for your accomplishments, only grief at not reaching your goals.
Take a baseline today of where you are in your life. If need be, write it down, take pictures, whatever you have to do to remind yourself of your starting point. Then write down where you want to go and you can eventually look back and see how far you’ve come while at the same time continuing to “have faith in how far you can go!”
Ok. I know. Not sure I should have used that title but I just couldn’t come up with a more appropriate word. Not sure what that says about my vocabulary but there it is.
As a professional organizer I spend a lot of time talking to people about their clutter. We go through all the reasons they want to hang on to it, all the excuses, the rationalizations, and the justifications. In the end, I get to the question of do you love it, value it or need it….really? These are not always easy questions to answer honestly and I get that. I have a few things I have refused to let go of, just because.
As a life coach, I spend a lot of time talking to people about their emotional clutter. We go through all the reasons they want to hang on to it, all the excuses, rationalizations, and the justifications. In the end, I get to the questions of is it helping you, teaching you or getting you to where you want to be now and in the future…..really? Again, these are not always easy questions to answer honestly and I get that, too. I have a few things I have refused to let go of, just because.
All this to say, what we don’t want to do is organize crap. When you throw a bunch of things, that you have not purposefully decided to keep, into a beautiful container, you are organizing crap, it may be beautiful on the outside but on the inside it is not. When you throw a bunch of emotional clutter into a beautiful home or mask it with something else, you are organizing crap, pretty on the outside but dark and painful on the inside. It is time to pay attention to what you are keeping…..physically and emotionally. Pick up each piece, ask the tough questions and decide if it is helping you or hurting you. In the end, you want to be left with stuff that is going to propel you forward and give you room to grow. So, don’t postpone those decisions that need to be made so that your life can be lived with purpose!
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