Ok. I know. Not sure I should have used that title but I just couldn’t come up with a more appropriate word. Not sure what that says about my vocabulary but there it is.
As a professional organizer I spend a lot of time talking to people about their clutter. We go through all the reasons they want to hang on to it, all the excuses, the rationalizations, and the justifications. In the end, I get to the question of do you love it, value it or need it….really? These are not always easy questions to answer honestly and I get that. I have a few things I have refused to let go of, just because.
As a life coach, I spend a lot of time talking to people about their emotional clutter. We go through all the reasons they want to hang on to it, all the excuses, rationalizations, and the justifications. In the end, I get to the questions of is it helping you, teaching you or getting you to where you want to be now and in the future…..really? Again, these are not always easy questions to answer honestly and I get that, too. I have a few things I have refused to let go of, just because.
All this to say, what we don’t want to do is organize crap. When you throw a bunch of things, that you have not purposefully decided to keep, into a beautiful container, you are organizing crap, it may be beautiful on the outside but on the inside it is not. When you throw a bunch of emotional clutter into a beautiful home or mask it with something else, you are organizing crap, pretty on the outside but dark and painful on the inside. It is time to pay attention to what you are keeping…..physically and emotionally. Pick up each piece, ask the tough questions and decide if it is helping you or hurting you. In the end, you want to be left with stuff that is going to propel you forward and give you room to grow. So, don’t postpone those decisions that need to be made so that your life can be lived with purpose!
Words Have Power
Do you want to know why you can’t attack that pile of paper? Why you can’t go through those boxes in the attic? Why you can’t seem to move forward in your life? Why you can’t end that relationship you know you need to end?
All of these actions require several decisions. The decision to take time to take care of it. The decision to press on through, even when it is difficult. The decision to see yourself as a person of worth, so you will surround yourself with what you truly value in your life. However, the biggest decision is to work through the fear.
The reason, we do not attack or make decisions about many things, is FEAR. Fear is ever present in the decision making process. We are afraid of letting go. We are afraid of getting rid of something we might need. We are afraid of being alone. We are afraid of making the wrong decision. We are afraid of change. We are afraid of success. We are afraid of failure. We are afraid of what other people will think of us. We are afraid we will upset someone. We are afraid we won’t do it just right.
Peel back the layers and at the root of many of your indecision, you will very possibly find fear. When you know what you are fighting, it is much easier to fight back.
(photo courtesy of Nutdanai Apikhomboonwaroot/freedigitalphotos.net)
in the last 45 days, I have taken on a lot of writing projects. I am working on being more consistent with my blog. I am working on some freelance articles. I am working on an article for a magazine. I am honing my writing skills and my butt and my brain hurt!
Writing is exhilarating, fun, terrifying, frustrating and challenging all at the same time. While I am writing my blog, I am trying to think about the message I want to send so I think and I think some more – brain hurts!
While writing the freelance articles, I have to research and write and rewrite – butt and brain hurt!
While writing the magazine article I have to sit and tweak, cut words, change words, edit, edit and edit some more – butt hurts!
Writing is something I really love to do. As Jeff Goins says, “you are a writer when you say you are.” Well, I am saying I am so what am I doing about it? Writing and writing some more. You can’t write while walking around so you sit. Some people can write while standing at a tall desk, but not me! I would spend more time worrying about the fact that I am standing up all day and then my feet would hurt!
My butt and my brain are engaged in activities out of the ordinary but that is okay; it is the kind of hurt that you know will all be worth it!
(photo courtesy of freedigitalphotos.net/nuttakit)